What if Mommas Loved Themselves as Their Kids Do?
This beautiful guest submission by Tana Stevens, brings up an amazing point; what if we all viewed ourselves through a lens that hasn’t been tainted by societies expectations? Much like a child’s view of things. Each and every one of us has a beauty that this world needs to see, but we are constantly viewing ourselves through the harsh criticisms of this world. If we take a lesson from Tana’s beautiful little girl, and viewed ourselves how she views her mommy, the love for ourselves would be so abundant and pure.
“I have been a proud young mother for just over two years, and I’ve spent the majority of that time trying to “lose the weight” and get back to “my old body.” It’s hard to admit what a problem that is for me; that I’ve been wasting a large portion of my daughter’s “growing up” trying to go backwards, to a more cookie-cutter me.
This past week, my precious toddler crawled into bed with me, diaper sagging full of pee, to wish me “good mone, mummy,” and she held my face in her hands and kissed my nose. And after that, as she looked me in the eyes and giggled, I saw myself as she sees me… beautiful, and perfect, as-is. And that’s not only because I’m her mommy, but also because she has no reason to expect me to be any other way than as I am.
What if we all, new mamas, veteran mothers and grandmothers, sisters and friends, were all able to see ourselves in the same way, without the societal expectations and Instagram filters?
I can admit it; I would love to be able to fit into my smaller clothes again; it would be like getting a “new” wardrobe, free of charge. But now, instead of working out to punish my body into submission, I exercise to gain the strength that I want my daughter to see in me.
I am beautiful. You are beautiful. WE as women are beautiful. Let’s lean on each other and become stronger (and healthier!) as a whole.”