An issue that we are all too familiar with is ‘slut-shaming’. Slut shaming is when a woman is judged on any number of ‘defining’ factors and ultimately dubbed a ‘slut’ because of them. Women everywhere feel the unfair pain as the feminine spirit is being attacked based on what you decide to do with your body and sexuality. This teacher, Jennifer Mathieu, who also wrote The Truth About Alice, addresses slut-shaming with her students brilliantly. Click here for the original article, or read below!
This piece of spoken word poetry that went viral earlier this year, depicts some dark truth about the current society we live in and our clouded views on ‘skinny’.
We found this post addressed to young women, and were totally inspired! Alexandra Harra writes on the Huffington post that “Women are the roots of our world.” We think it is so important to remind women and young girls of their important role in society. You help create life and you carry an innate sense of love that brings humanity together. Always connect to the fierce feminine spirit within. Harra addresses 6 things that will help women of all varieties stay on a healthy and positive journey! Read more below! Continue Reading
HNS Guest Blogger, Jessica Bush, gives an incredibly raw account of her struggle with her body image, her eating disorder, and her realization that being in the middle is something to be celebrated. We all have our problems to work through, and although it would be nice to be able to say to the world that we are perfect and have completely over come our obstacles, usually this is just not the case. As humans we are constantly working to grow and better ourselves. In a way, it is liberating to know that there is always room to grow, and there is always tomorrow to continue to strive towards your goals. We love that Jessica was honest with where she is in her struggles, and we commend her for how far she’s come!
HNS blogger, Creighton McAfee, shares her insights on why we should stop asking for permission from other people, when the answer is already within us. When we quite the noise around us, and listen to that voice within, we are usually rewarded. No one knows you better than you so take pride in being an expert on your life, and practice listening to your intuition.
This article by Robin Korth, originally see on Huffington Post, is a raw account of how one woman took words of attack against her body, and turned them into strength and love for the vessel that houses her soul. We are so impressed by her strength and determination to love herself in spite of impossible standards placed upon her. Read “My Naked Truth” below, or check out her latest book.
“Naked, I stood at the closet doors with the lights on and made myself ready. I took a deep breath and positioned the mirrors so I could see all of me. I consciously worked to remove my self-believed inner image. I opened my eyes and looked very carefully at my body. And my heart lurched at the truth: I am not a young woman anymore. I am a woman well-lived. My body tells of all the years she has carried my spirit through life.
I am a 59-year-old woman in great health and in good physical shape. I stand five-feet, nine-inches tall and weigh 135 pounds. I wear a size six in both jeans and panties, and my breasts are nowhere near my navel. In fact, they still struggle to make it full-up in a B-cup bra. My thighs are no longer velvet and my buttocks have dimples. My upper arms wobble a bit and my skin shows the marks of the sun. There is a softness around my waist that is no longer perfectly taut, and the pout of my abdomen attests to a c-section that took its bikini flatness — but gave me a son.
Why this brutal scrutiny of myself? It was time to counter the damage of my culture, my own soft-held fear and to pour warm love on my own soul. It was time to claim every mark and not-perfect inch of my own body — a body that had been called “too wrinkled” by a man who was fetched by my energy and my mind, but did not like the bare truth of me. His name was Dave and he was 55 years old.
We met on a dating site. Dave was interesting, gentlemanly and bright. He held my hand and toured with me on long bicycle rides. He drove many miles to come to my door. He made meals for us both and ruffled my dog’s happy head. I was enticed and longed for the full knowing of this man. And so, we planned a weekend together. That’s when things got confusing, unspoken and just-not-quite there. We went to bed in a couple’s way — unclothed and touching — all parts near. Kisses were shared and sleep came in hugs. I attempted more intimacy throughout the weekend and was deterred each time.
On Monday evening over the phone, I asked this man who had shared my bed for three nights running why we had not made love. “Your body is too wrinkly,” he said without a pause. “I have spoiled myself over the years with young women. I just can’t get excited with you. I love your energy and your laughter. I like your head and your heart. But, I just can’t deal with your body.”
I was stunned. The hurt would come later. I asked him slowly and carefully if he found my body hard to look at. He said yes. “So, this means seeing me naked was troublesome to you?” I asked. He told me he had just looked away. And when the lights were out, he pretended my body was younger — that I was younger. My breath came deep and full as I processed this information. My face blazed as I felt embarrassed and shamed by memories of my easy nakedness with him in days just passed.
We talked for some time more, my head reeling at the content of the conversation. He spoke of special stockings and clothing that would “hide” my years. He blithely told me he loved “little black dresses” and strappy shoes. He said my hair was not long and flowing as he preferred, but that was okay because it was “cool looking.” I felt like a Barbie Doll on acid as I listened to this man. He was totally oblivious to the viciousness of his words. He had turned me into an object to be dressed and positioned to provide satisfaction for his ideas of what female sexual perfection should be.
He explained that now that I knew what was required, we could have a great time in the bedroom. I told him no. I would not hide from my own body. I would not wear outfits to make my body more “tolerable.” I would not undress in the dark or shower with the bathroom door closed. I would not diminish myself for him — or for anyone. My body is beautiful and it goes along with my mind and my heart.
When I told Dave that I never wanted to see or hear from him again, he was confused and complained that I was making a big deal out of nothing. He whined that I had taken a small part of our relationship and made it a major event. I didn’t even want to try to explain the hurt and the horror that he had inflicted upon me. I actually felt sickly sorry for this man as I hung up the phone. It was after this call that I went to the bedroom and gently stripped off my clothes.
As I looked in the mirror — clear-eyed and brave — I claimed every inch of my body with love, honor and deep care. This body is me. She has held my soul and carried my heart for all of my days. Each wrinkle and imperfection is a badge of my living and of my giving of life. With tears in my eyes, I hugged myself close. I said thank you to God for the gift of my body and my life. And I said thank you to a sad man named Dave for reminding me of how precious it all is.”
We love the husband and wife team, Marc and Angel, from Marc and Angel Hack life and who are also the authors of 1000+ Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently. In this particular blog, they address relationship truths that in retrospective, they realized were very important to building a healthy, balanced relationship of any sort!
We were on the edge of our seats watching this amazing athlete use her body to it’s fullest potential. Check out this ninja warrior and be prepared to feel so inspired by all of the potential you have as a fierce woman!
Kathy Caprino asked a simple question, “Are you longing to make a positive impact in the world? If so, do these behaviors match your own? How are they different?” in her latest article. Caprino outlined 9 major behaviors that she believes people who positively impact the world possess.